How They Affect Their Children
Joan Acocella brings the controversial topic of helicopter parenting to light in her article “The Child Trap: The Rise of Over Parenting.” Acocella gives good insight into the minds of parents, speaking about those who want their kids to succeed, but go about it in a suffocating way. One might even say she exemplifies how many guardians are trying to make up for their shortcomings. Say a parent felt ignored or snubbed as a child. Maybe their parents didn’t have the means to enroll their child in various different extracurricular activities, such as little league baseball, or horseback riding. This may make them grow into caretakers who are a little more aggressive when it comes to such activities that they may have missed out on. Acocella writes about how normal it is to know parents nowadays who more or less spoil their kids into adulthood. Spoiling though isn’t the only aspect of over parenting. Anxieties about the child’s well-being, and the extreme pressure to achieve from a young age are two other factors.
The writer cites many different authors who have written books slandering this new type of “invasive parenting.” Acocella mentions an editor at Psychology Today, Hara Estroff Marano, who speaks about a company that (for a fairly steep price) will send parents DVDs of Mozart and Beethoven classics set to stimulating videos. These scams are for 3-month infants and up. They are designed to give one’s child a jump-start to the academic challenges ahead. Pushing such information into such young children’s minds seems a little outrageous. One alternate hypothesis is that the best way for an infant to learn is through unconstrained and natural exploration of the world around them.
Additionally, our culture underpins this sort of hothouse parenting, Acocella points out, with the accelerated learning structure that our children are now subjected to. This sort of thing starts at a tender...